Tom's Blog

We Dance Between Both Worlds

by Tom Zuba
The death of someone we lovecracks us open. Big time. It’s supposed to. It did me. And in the beginning... which varies from person-to-person a...

Tell Me All Of It ...

by Tom Zuba
I’d invite you to sit down.In the chair next to me.I’d breathe with you.In and out. In and out. In and out.So your mind could slow down. And your ...

I Am No Stronger Than You

by Tom Zuba
I am no stronger than you.I do not possess super-human-powers that have somehow made me hurt less.Than you.Or anyone else.Remember.My 18-month-old...

Your Next Step

by Tom Zuba
There is a next step.  For you to take. Did you know that? If you’re feeling stuck.Frightened.Confused.Unsure and unsteady.Blocked.Pa...
Posted in healing, hope, sacred space"

You Were Born to be Radiant.

by Tom Zuba
After the fog lifts.After the numbness starts to melt.When the shock gives way to our new reality.Most of us have already jumped on the bandwagon.T...

A New You Emerging

by Tom Zuba
  My 18-month-old daughter Erin died in 1990. My 43-year-old wife Trici died in 1999. My 13-year-old son Rory died in 2005. I have l...
Posted in Death, Erin, Feelings, grief, healing, hope, Rory, Trici

We Walk Through Fire

by Tom Zuba
You are stronger than you think. You are stronger than you know. You are stronger than you feel ... right now. You have already walk...
Posted in emotions, Feelings, grief, healing, hope, mourning

Seeing with New Eyes

by Tom Zuba
On more than one occasion, someone has said to me: "Before you suggested it Tom, it never dawned on me that I could be happy again. I didn't know ...
Posted in healing, hope

A new way to LIVE WITH your child's death

by Tom Zuba
While reading through FB posts this morning, I came across this message shared with the 11,000+ people who follow a popular page for parents who ar...
Posted in healing, hope

Victim or Participant? Your choice.

by Tom Zuba
The death of someone I dearly love cracks me open. As the days, and weeks, and months unfold ... I either become the victim ... or the participa...

How Do I Start to Heal?

by Tom Zuba
In order to heal you must MOURN.  You must push all of your grief up and out.  Contrary to the old way of doing grief - denying, su...
Posted in emotions, Feelings, grief, healing, hope, mourning

Building Bridges of Reconnection When People Mourn Differently

by Tom Zuba
I recently received this message from a mother who is feeling disconnected from her daughter one year after the suicide of her son.  Hello To...
Posted in "Safe, emotions, Feelings, grief, healing, mourning, sacred space"