Tom's Blog

A New You Emerging

  My 18-month-old daughter Erin died in 1990. My 43-year-old wife Trici died in 1999. My 13-year-old son Rory died in 2005. I have l...

We Walk Through Fire

You are stronger than you think. You are stronger than you know. You are stronger than you feel ... right now. You have already walk...

How Do I Start to Heal?

In order to heal you must MOURN.  You must push all of your grief up and out.  Contrary to the old way of doing grief - denying, su...

Building Bridges of Reconnection When People Mourn Differently

I recently received this message from a mother who is feeling disconnected from her daughter one year after the suicide of her son.  Hello To...

Hold on, Hold on, Hold on

In the beginning of our grief journey ~ and I put no time limit on the length of the "beginning" of our grief journey, because for some it may ...

The Halloween Graveyard

The Halloween Graveyard
The other day, while mindlessly driving down a narrow, fall-colored, leaf-filled neighborhood street, I noticed that Halloween decorations were ...

Which Do I Grieve First?

I received this question from a woman struggling with a tremendous amount of grief due to multiple deaths in her family over a short period of ...