Your Next Step

There is a next step.  For you to take.

Did you know that?

If you’re feeling stuck.
Unsure and unsteady.
Paralyzed even.

There is always a next step.

And it’s yours alone.  To take.

When you are ready.
When you are able.
When you discover what it is.

That next step.

Doesn’t matter if your beloved died yesterday 
or a few weeks ago.  
If a handful of months have passed, 
or one full year.  
Or three.  
Or five. 
Or a decade or two.

There is always a next step.  For you.  To take.  When you are ready.

To take that next step.  However.  You need to know where you are now.  
On your path.  

And you need to know where you are going.  
Or at least where you want to be going, even if (especially of) you’re not sure it’s even possible to get there.  
From here.  
To that new place you want to be.

And that demands silence.  Of you.  Quiet.  Alone time.

Do not be afraid 
of the silence.
It is one of your best teachers.

Silence allows you to be with you.  The real you.
Not the you that is running as fast as you can so you won’t think, or feel or remember.

But the you that is beneath that fake-you.
The you that knows you can do this.

Deep, down, inside.

The you that breathes in and breathes out and in the quiet of stillness can actually feel a birth.  Your own.

Out of the pain and horror and loneliness and anguish and terror and confusion and regret and sadness and missing and wanting and pleading...

Out of all of that 
the real, deep, still you 
knows there is a next step.

A step towards life,
and light,
and love,
and laughter,
and you.

There is a next step in the direction of you.

Have you discovered it?


Will you take it? 

If my NEW WAY of "doing grief" resonates with you, I'd love to work with you one-on-one. If you are in the Rockford, Illinois area we can do that in person, otherwise, I am having great success working with people all over the country via Skype or FaceTime.  Email me at if you would like to take the next step on your grief journey and we can schedule a session.

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