We Walk Through Fire

You are stronger than you think.

You are stronger than you know.

You are stronger than you feel ... right now.

You have already walked through fire.

And you can do it again.

And again.

And again, if necessary.

And so can I.

Yesterday, I drove downtown to the County Clerk's office. I was surprised and delighted that there was no line. I walked right up to the counter and was helped in less than 60 seconds. No waiting.

I had already printed the request form at home, using my computer and printer. I filled it out ahead of time. Read through it again to make sure everything was in order.

And when the woman asked how she could help me ... I handed her the form.

As if I were handing a prescription to the pharmacist.

Or a receipt at the dry cleaners.

Or the claim check at a lawn mower repair shop.

My action seemed that ordinary and routine.

But I was requesting a copy of my 13-year-old son Rory's Death Certificate.

As I said, we have already walked through fire.

We are stronger than we think. Know. Feel.

We have walked through fire. And we can do it again.

Take a deep breath and think about something you have done recently that required extraordinary strength, courage, and even grace.

Something that most people don't do in a "normal day." Something like requesting a copy of your son's Death Certificate.

Take a deep breath and remind yourself that you have already walked through fire ... that you are stronger than you know ... and that you can walk through fire again if, and when it is necessary. 

When was the last time you walked through fire? 

If my NEW WAY of "doing grief" resonates with you, I'd love to work with you one-on-one. If you are in the Rockford, Illinois area we can do that in person, otherwise, I am having great success working with people all over the country via Skype or FaceTime.  Email me at tomzuba@aol.com if you would like to take the next step on your grief journey and we can schedule a session.