Tom's Blog
10 Things You Can Do to help make this holiday season more bearable for someone you know who is learning to live with the death of someone they love
1. Say their name. Please mention the person who died by name. Your family member/friend is already sad. Nothing you can do will make them more sad...
10 Suggestions for Living WITH the Holidays this Year when someone you love has died
1. You will survive. Remind yourself that you will survive. You will. Christmas Eve and Christmas Day will come and they will go and it will be ...
A Simple Candle Lighting Ceremony
My friend Lynne shared this Candle Lighting Ceremony with me quite a few years ago. It is written by Nancy M. Moeller, L.S.W., C.A.D.C, 1993 ©. I...
Create a Space for Hope
I remember that Thanksgiving of 1990, our first after our 18-month-old daughter Erin died just four months earlier, being filled with such mixed ...
At Thanksgiving, Say Their Name
Thursday, November 26, 2020 will be the 31st Thanksgiving I’ve lived through following the death of my 18-month-old daughter Erin in 1990. The 22n...
The Halloween Graveyard
The other day, while mindlessly driving down a narrow, fall-colored, leaf-filled neighborhood street, I noticed that Halloween decorations were ...