A Simple Candle Lighting Ceremony

My friend Lynne shared this Candle Lighting Ceremony with me quite a few years ago.  It is written by Nancy M. Moeller, L.S.W., C.A.D.C, 1993 ©.  It is a simple and beautiful ceremony that I hope you will consider adding to your holiday gatherings.

During the holidays, it is often difficult to find ways to include your loved one in celebrations. A beautiful way to accomplish this may be to create a new tradition by using four candles in a centerpiece - advent wreaths work perfectly - and as you light the candles, read the following words:

As we light these four candles in your honor, we light one for our sadness, one for our memories, one for our determination, and one for our love.

We light this candle for our sadness. The pain of losing you is intense, and the grief we feel is often hard to handle. We want you to know that we miss you so much.

We light this candle for our memories. There is so much we remember - your smile, your laugh - the good times and the bad ones, too - when we were angry and when we were happy - all those times that never could have been lived with anyone but you. We want you to know that we will always remember.

We light this candle for our determination. Knowing you has brought us strength. We are changed because of you. Your life has made a difference in our lives. We want you to know that we will take the energy of your living to help us move forward in our own lives.

We light this candle for our love. The specialness that we shared with you can never be replaced. During this holiday season, our love for you will shine as brightly as this candle. We will pass that love on to others, and as we do, our hearts will smile because of you. We want you to know that we will always love you.

 

And remember to "Say Their Name" as you gather with family and friends this Holiday Season.  Click here for suggestions. 

My book Permission to Mourn: A New Way to Grief is available at amazon. It makes the perfect holiday gift for everyone on your list who is learning to live with the death of someone they love.
You can find it by clicking: Tom's Book.



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  • I love these suggestions. We lost our son 6 years ago. It is so hard at holidays. What do you do when your husband cries when his name is said and my other son gets mad when remembering good memories and says I’m just trying to depress him

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  • Tom,

    Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and ideas.This has helped me immensely with my grieving and memorial for my beloved son who passed at 28 years old in an auto accident. May you continue to be Blessed and filled with the Peace that only The Lord can give us. Receive a warm and big hug from me as you are truly a light in this world.

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