Tom's Blog

At Thanksgiving, Say Their Name

Thursday, November 26, 2020 will be the 31st Thanksgiving I’ve lived through following the death of my 18-month-old daughter Erin in 1990.  The 22n...

GUEST BLOG: Transcending loss and living abundantly, by Mark Ireland

I believe we will always have a relationship with the people we love that die.  Always.  I am happy to be able to share Mark Ireland's ...

A Letter from Ram Dass

This is a beautiful letter written by Ram Dass to a couple whose daughter Rachel died. I could not say this at first ... in 1990, when my daughter ...

"Transforming the Way We Do Grief" downloadable VIDEO PROGRAM

After my 18-month-old daughter Erin died in 1990, like so many, I tried doing grief the old way. Frankly, I didn't know any better. So, I hurried b...

Hold on, Hold on, Hold on

In the beginning of our grief journey ~ and I put no time limit on the length of the "beginning" of our grief journey, because for some it may ...

The Halloween Graveyard

The Halloween Graveyard
The other day, while mindlessly driving down a narrow, fall-colored, leaf-filled neighborhood street, I noticed that Halloween decorations were ...

Is "Keeping Busy" the Answer?

Conventional wisdom, many well-meaning friends and family members, and even others who are a little further down their own grief path than you may ...

Do You Say Dead, Passed, Made His Transition, Lost or ... ???

I posted this question on Facebook.  I find the responses fascinating and hope you do, too.  How amazing to see, first hand, that what ...

I Am That Which Has Emerged From the Fire

I do not define myself by how many roadblocks have appeared in my path.  I define myself by the courage I’ve found to forge new roads. ...

Which Do I Grieve First?

I received this question from a woman struggling with a tremendous amount of grief due to multiple deaths in her family over a short period of ...

Can Prayer Change God's Mind?

Growing Up Catholic I was raised Catholic. One of my earliest memories is of my Irish Catholic grandmother teaching me to make the sign of th...

10 Reasons to Try a "Grief Group" (even if/especially if you aren’t the “support-group-type”)

There are many steps we can each take to facilitate our own healing.  Being part of a group created to help group members heal is one big, juicy, i...