Tom's Blog

A New You Emerging

by Tom Zuba
  My 18-month-old daughter Erin died in 1990. My 43-year-old wife Trici died in 1999. My 13-year-old son Rory died in 2005. I have l...
Posted in Death, Erin, Feelings, grief, healing, hope, Rory, Trici

We Walk Through Fire

by Tom Zuba
You are stronger than you think. You are stronger than you know. You are stronger than you feel ... right now. You have already walk...
Posted in emotions, Feelings, grief, healing, hope, mourning

How Do I Start to Heal?

by Tom Zuba
In order to heal you must MOURN.  You must push all of your grief up and out.  Contrary to the old way of doing grief - denying, su...
Posted in emotions, Feelings, grief, healing, hope, mourning

Building Bridges of Reconnection When People Mourn Differently

by Tom Zuba
I recently received this message from a mother who is feeling disconnected from her daughter one year after the suicide of her son.  Hello To...
Posted in "Safe, emotions, Feelings, grief, healing, mourning, sacred space"

Hold on, Hold on, Hold on

by Tom Zuba
In the beginning of our grief journey ~ and I put no time limit on the length of the "beginning" of our grief journey, because for some it may ...
Posted in grief, mourning

The Halloween Graveyard

by Tom Zuba
The Halloween Graveyard
The other day, while mindlessly driving down a narrow, fall-colored, leaf-filled neighborhood street, I noticed that Halloween decorations were ...
Posted in grief, Halloween, holiday

Which Do I Grieve First?

by Tom Zuba
I received this question from a woman struggling with a tremendous amount of grief due to multiple deaths in her family over a short period of ...
Posted in grief, mourning