Love is a state of Being. Your love is not outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you. It is not dependent on some other body, some other external form."

    Eckhart Tolle
    The Power of Now

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  • Teaching A New Way to Do Grief


    Welcome.  I am glad you found me.

    My book,
    Permission to Mourn: A New Way to Do Grief,
    is available at Barnes and Noble stores across the country. You may also order the book in paperback or as an eBook online at Amazon.com or at barnesandnoble.com or from any bookstore in the world no matter where you live.

    If you are in the Rockford, IL area you may purchase my book at both Possession's Resale and Consignment and Vineyard Books and Gifts at Highcrest Shopping Center, at Womanspace in Rockford, IL, at Whispering Willow Florist in Loves Park, IL and at Beyond The Door in Roscoe, IL.  

    Autographed copies of my book can be purchased directly from me. To order click:  I'd Like an Autographed Copy

    To learn what others are saying about my book click:  Reader's Reviews

    For a list of my upcoming Book Signings, Presentations and Speaking Engagements
    click:  Tom's Schedule 

    Please subscribe to my Newsletter so we can stay in touch by clicking: Newsletter   

    For 20+ years I have been learning to live life
    with the death of my
    18-month-old daughter Erin in 1990,
    my 43-year-old wife Trici in 1999,
    and my 13-year-old son Rory in 2005.  

    Please explore this site and discover the tools I have created for you.

    Use these tools to heal, create,
    and live the life you were born to live,
    not in spite of the fact that someone you love has died,  but because someone you love has died.

    To work with me one-on-one either in person if you are in the Rockford, Illinois area or via Skype, FaceTime or Facebook Chat if you are anywhere else in the world please email me at tomzuba@aol.com.

    To watch a preview of my 80-minute Video Program, click "Transforming the Way We Do Grief." 

    Make sure you:

    ** "like" my Facebook Page and become part of our Healing Circle,

    ** subscribe to my Newsletter so we can stay in touch,  

    ** read my Blog,

    ** check me out on Pinterest,

    ** and watch some of my YouTube videos.

    The story of: 222.

    To learn more about me and this new way to do grief please watch this recent interview.


    ** Ten Years Later: Click here for a list of my Ten Things. 

    Tom on Oprah

    Hope and peace to you,