And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.

    The Little Prince
    Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

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  • Teaching A New Way to "Do Grief"

    Welcome, I'm glad you are here.

    I am a Life Coach, 
    and Speaker
    teaching a new way to "do grief."  

    For 20+ years I have been learning to live life
    with the death of my
    18-month-old daughter Erin in 1990,
    my 43-year-old wife Trici in 1999,
    and my 13-year-old son Rory in 2005.  

    During that time,
    I have discovered a NEW WAY to "do grief;"
    a way rooted in hope that offers you
    the promise of a new, full, joy-filled life.

    I can help you heal.  
    Your broken heart.
    Explore this site and discover the tools I have created for you.
    Use these tools to heal, create,
    and live the life you were born to live,
    not in spite of the fact that someone you love has died,
    but because someone you love has died.

    You were born to be radiant.  
    And so was I.

    To work with me one-on-one ~ in person if you are in the Rockford, Illinois area, or via Skype or FaceTime if you are anywhere else in the world ~ email me at tomzuba@aol.com.

    My 7-week online, interactive program "Your Next Step" begins Monday, April 7th.  I created this so anyone in the world can participate from the comfort of your own home.  If you're ready to take your next step on your healing journey, this is for you.  To learn more about this program click here:
    Early Registration is available through Sunday March 30th.

    In Spring 2014,  I'll offer "Permission to Mourn" from 7:00pm - 8:30pm one weekday evening for those living in the Rockford, IL area.  To be put on the early registration mailing list, please let me know of your interest by emailing me at tomzuba@aol.com.

    To watch a preview of my 80-minute Video Program, click "Transforming the Way We Do Grief." 

    Make sure you ...
    "like" my Facebook Page and become part of our Healing Circle,
    subscribe to my Newsletter so we can stay in touch,  
    read my Blog check me out on Pinterest,
    and watch some of my YouTube videos.

    To learn more about me and this new way to "do grief" please watch this recent interview.


    To learn even more about my 20+ year journey read
    Tom's story.

    Hope and peace to you,
    P.S.  I was on Oprah in April, 1999 about 3 1/2 months after my wife Trici died.  Here's the clip: