Tom's Blog

Major Breakdowns ~ are they normal?

One of my Facebook followers, Wendi, asked for input: " ...would like to ask for advice from your followers (and you of course!). I lost my 17 yr o...

i carry your heart

My wife, Trici, loved the poet e.e. cummings.  We printed this cummings’ poem on one side of our daughter Erin’s Memorial Card.  It just ...

Does the relationship really continue?

For many of us, our healing quickens and deepens when we come to a place where we truly believe at a deep, deep level that our beloveds are safe, h...

Dying "on time"

The priest said this about the 24-year-old soldier who died while serving his/our country…”leaving behind” his young wife and two children:  ...

A new way to look at suicide

I received this from a Facebook friend.  I think it's beautiful and hope it brings some peace and comfort to those whose live's have been touc...

Rethinking lost and loss

The death of someone we love cracks us open.  It’s supposed to.  Big time!   When our beloved dies ... when he or she leaves hi...

The Truth About Grief presented this Thursday, April 19th

It’s been almost two months since Thalia and Brenda, two cheerleaders from Belvidere North High School, were killed in a car accident on their way ...

On the anniversary of Rory's death, 2012

February 22, 2012 On this magical, mystical 222, I want to - need to - shout, “I am so very grateful to be alive.  I love my l...

Whitney Houston ~ At first glance, three gifts of her death

And I will always love you.  I will always love you. My first introduction to the song was in 1974, way before SHE recorded it for The Bodyguard.  ...