Tom's Blog

Reincarnation and organ donors

I recently received this question: "I have a question for you, I need help in trying to explain something to a broken hearted mother, her son died...

When Death is So Very Public

Once again our community has been rocked by death in a very public way. This time it is the sudden deaths of Pilot Andy Olesen and flight nurs...

10 Things You Can Do to help make this holiday season more bearable for someone you know who is learning to live with the death of someone they love

10 Things You Can Do to help make this holiday season more bearable for someone you know  who is learning to live with the death of someone they love
1. Say their name. Please mention the person who died by name. Your family member/friend is already sad. Nothing you can do will make them more sad...

10 Suggestions for Living WITH the Holidays this Year when someone you love has died

10 Suggestions for Living WITH the Holidays this Year  when someone you love has died
1. You will survive.  Remind yourself that you will survive. You will.  Christmas Eve and Christmas Day will come and they will go and it will be ...

"Deliberately Crossing Over"

I want to share these words that Judy Rae posted on my Facebook page ~ "my son Ryan who deliberately crossed over to the other side earlier this ...

One Mother Shares After Her Own Son's Suicide

I met Madeline Sharples online, through Facebook. Madeline is a gifted writer and is dedicating her life to bringing suicide out of the closet and ...

A Simple Candle Lighting Ceremony

My friend Lynne shared this Candle Lighting Ceremony with me quite a few years ago.  It is written by Nancy M. Moeller, L.S.W., C.A.D.C, 1993 ©.  I...

Create a Space for Hope

I remember that Thanksgiving of 1990, our first after our 18-month-old daughter Erin died just four months earlier, being filled with such mixed ...

Why Not Believe the Psychics and Mediums?

  “Surrender is the key that unlocks the door to grace.” ~Cheryl Richardson, The Unmistakable Touch of Grace I have seen a good number ...

Have You Considered Suicide?

People rarely talk about this.  I will.  After each death ~ my 18-month-old daughter Erin's in 1990, my wife Trici's in 1999, and my ...

Tell Your Story Over and Over

When my 18-month-old daughter Erin died in 1990 I didn't think I would survive, nor did I want to. Remarkably, I have...and I'm glad.  After ...

The Guest House by Rumi

I love this ~  The Guest House This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some ...