Tom's Blog

Your Next Step

There is a next step.  For you to take. Did you know that? If you’re feeling stuck.Frightened.Confused.Unsure and unsteady.Blocked.Pa...

A New You Emerging

  My 18-month-old daughter Erin died in 1990. My 43-year-old wife Trici died in 1999. My 13-year-old son Rory died in 2005. I have l...

We Walk Through Fire

You are stronger than you think. You are stronger than you know. You are stronger than you feel ... right now. You have already walk...

Seeing with New Eyes

On more than one occasion, someone has said to me: "Before you suggested it Tom, it never dawned on me that I could be happy again. I didn't know ...

A new way to LIVE WITH your child's death

While reading through FB posts this morning, I came across this message shared with the 11,000+ people who follow a popular page for parents who ar...

How Do I Start to Heal?

In order to heal you must MOURN.  You must push all of your grief up and out.  Contrary to the old way of doing grief - denying, su...

"Deliberately Crossing Over"

I want to share these words that Judy Rae posted on my Facebook page ~ "my son Ryan who deliberately crossed over to the other side earlier this ...

One Mother Shares After Her Own Son's Suicide

I met Madeline Sharples online, through Facebook. Madeline is a gifted writer and is dedicating her life to bringing suicide out of the closet and ...

A Simple Candle Lighting Ceremony

My friend Lynne shared this Candle Lighting Ceremony with me quite a few years ago.  It is written by Nancy M. Moeller, L.S.W., C.A.D.C, 1993 ©.  I...

Create a Space for Hope

I remember that Thanksgiving of 1990, our first after our 18-month-old daughter Erin died just four months earlier, being filled with such mixed ...