Stop Everything

Grief is not the enemy.

But oh do I know how it can feel like one.
The enemy.
Especially at first. 

Grief is actually our automatic, internal response to loss.

Grief is
God’s way
Life’s way
Love’s way
of saying
stop
everything. 
Everything. 

And
reevaluate
realign
regroup
reassess
repurpose
remember
and
reawaken. 

I know this may be impossible to believe.
At first. 

And you are entitled to
fight
kick
scream
resist
and literally wage war with life as long as you like.
Forever, in fact, if you desire.
And that will be you creating hell for you
on earth. 

I’d like to tell you that it’s easy.
It is not.
I’d like to tell you there is one book to read,
one teacher/guru/shaman/sage/wise one
to follow.
There is not.

I’d like to tell you there is one lecture to go to,
5 easy steps to take,
one miraculous course to take.
There is not. 

But there is your next step.
And then your next step.
Followed by another step. 

And to determine your next step I encourage you to
read everything
listen to everyone
follow several (many) teachers/gurus/shamans/sages/and wise ones. 

Take it all in to determine what resonates with you now.
At the place you find yourself today. 

You will recognize (remember) truth when you encounter it.

And when you know
at your very core
what your next step is
even if there is a twinge of doubt
and a mountain of fear
take it
anyway. 

Take the next step.