If You Are New to Grief

If you are new.

Brand new
to this thing called grief.

If someone you love
so dearly

I would transport you to a beautiful room
with the most comfortable bed
you could ever imagine.

The lights would be low.

The music soft.

And you would control both by a simple thought.

“Dim the lights even more.”
“Raise the volume just a bit.” 

You would feel so safe in this room
that you would sleep
and sleep
and sleep. 

For as long as you wanted.
For as long as you needed. 

As you begin to adjust
to this new life.

Your new life. 

And when you were hungry.
There would be food.


Prepared especially for you.
With love.
With great love. 

And you could eat from your bed,
food served on a tray
if that is what you wanted. 

Or you could move to the chair.
That overstuffed, comfortable chair
placed opposite your bed. 

And you would decide if you wanted company in your room
or if you wanted to be alone
for now
and no one’s feelings would be hurt.

The world would know
that someone you love
has died.

And you had one job.

Just one.

To take the best care possible
of you.  

I would transport you to a beautiful room
with the most comfortable bed
you could ever imagine. 

And you would stay there as long as you wanted.
As long as you needed. 

You would stay there until you felt ready
to take the next step.

If these words resonate with you, and you'd like to explore A New Way to Do Grief with me one-one-one I coach clients all over the world using Skype, FaceTime, Zoom and Facebook Chat.  You may email me at tomzuba@aol.com to discuss details.


My first book, Permission to Mourn: A New Way to Do Grief, Is available at amazon. Click for Tom's 1st book.  My second book, Becoming Radiant, is also available on amazon.  Click:  Tom's 2nd book.  To learn more visit www.TomZuba.com, join our Healing Circle on Facebook (www.facebook.com/tomzuba1), follow me on Twitter @ TomZuba, at YouTube and find me on Pinterest.



  • I am looking for a grief group since my oldest daughter passed away on March 20th of this year. She was only 53. Don’t know how this group works but I would like to be a part of it.

    Barbara Micco
  • My husband died five 5 years ago and I am ready now to leave this room but hope to come back any time. Grief work takes a long time and the teacher comes when the student is ready. Thank you Tom.

  • I need this room so badly. Why cant this be real, it would help out so many of us grieving mothers and fathers.

  • This is just beautiful i so want to go to this room, thank u for sharing xxx

    Trish holland

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