Are There Really 5 Stages of Grief?
I’m going to come right and say it.
If you are working with a
or anyone else who is trying to help you navigate the wilderness of grief
and they start talking about
5 stages of grief
suggesting that there is a linear, predictable order to grief
please, please, please
do yourself a favor
and run as far away from that person
as fast as you can.
does not know grief.
Grief is the internal, automatic response to loss.
Everyone grieves. Everyone.
If you are alive and have attached to anything.
A certain lifestyle.
If you have attached to something
and you lose that something
And as much as I’d like to tell you that grief will be
neat and tidy
and unfold in 5 stages,
it will not.
Grief is wild,
and ever-changing and unsettling
Most of us (all of us)
to go with the flow of grief
when it is our time
we never talk about it.
What it’s like to live with grief.
So when grief does expresses itself
in the often surprising
and confusing ways it does,
when all we want to do is sleep
or we can’t sleep at all,
when we eat and eat and eat,
or have completely lost our appetite.
When we feel
(to name just a few of the ways grief expresses itself)
seemingly at the same time.
We are experiencing grief.
And when our arms physically ache to hold our beloved,
when we have heart palpitations,
and fight to keep our balance,
we are experiencing
We think we are going crazy.
We are not.
We have entered the wilderness of grief.
And in order to get out
we must go through.
If my NEW WAY of "doing grief" resonates with you, I'd love to work with you one-on-one. If you are in the Rockford, Illinois area we can do that in person, otherwise, I am having great success working with people all over the country via Skype or FaceTime. Email me at email@example.com if you would like to take the next step on your grief journey and we can schedule a session.