Broken Open

We think that we are broken
and maybe we are
and maybe we aren’t
(really)
but that topic is for a different day.

We are most certainly broken open.
Broken open
because someone we love
dearly
died.
And this death
this one
was not part of the plan
we had created
for the rest of our life.

Our plan
our dream
our hope
our vision
our future
our life
has been shattered.

And we have been broken open.
Big time.

Is it possible to make peace with life
our life
again
or for the first time
following the death of someone we love
so dearly?

It is.

It is possible.

Will you go back to the life you had?
To being the person you were?
To believing all the things you did
before
the person you love
so dearly
died?

No.
That is not possible.

It will require herculean effort
on your part
to heal.
Herculean.

It is not easy.
And that is why many
(most)
do not do it.
They don’t heal.
It’s just too hard.
For them.

But you are here.
Reading these words.
Because a part of you
the soul part of you
is looking for truth.

You will recognize truth when you encounter it.

In order to heal
you must return to love.
You must return to the very,
very,
very core,
the center,
of the relationship you have
still and forever
with the person you love
so dearly
that died.

And the path you must take to that center
to that core
to that love
is through
(not around)
the anger
sadness
anguish
despair
guilt
rage
regret
terror
and every other feeling and emotion that the death of your beloved triggers.

You must go through.
Not around.

You must give yourself
permission to mourn.
All of it.

You must forgive
everyone for everything.
(I told you it would require a herculean effort.)
You must forgive
God
the world
the system
the medical community
the drunk driver
the one with the gun
your mother, your father, your spouse, your partner, your siblings, your family, friends, colleagues, neighbors and community for whatever they did
and whatever they did not do.
For what they said
and for what they were unable to say.
You must forgive the one you love
that died.
You must forgive yourself.
And most of all you must forgive life
for being
life
as it is.

You must learn to love yourself so very much
that you will no longer create pain
by holding on to all that has been causing you pain
these days,
weeks,
months,
years,
decades, even.
You must love yourself that much.

You must release and forgive
all of it.
For you.

But only if you want to heal.

It will require herculean effort
on your part
to heal.
Herculean.

And a part of you is ready
or you wouldn’t be reading these words.

In order to heal
you must give yourself
permission to mourn.

There is a new way to do grief
and we must become the teachers.
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