Our Relationships Are Eternal

What if everything I am telling you
is true?
What then?
What if
I, too, once felt pain so unbearable
that I felt no hope?
None.
What if I, too, wished
prayed
begged
pleaded that I could die, too?
What if, there was a time when
every part of me ached?
When it was painful to breathe?
And what if I told you
that healing can begin
when you realize
you will always have a relationship 
with the one you love
that has died. 
Always. 
He did not leave you. 
She is still here. 
And what if I told you it is up to you 
to create the space
the quiet, still space
in your life
mind
and heart
so she can whisper to you at first
"I am still here."
So he can gently remind you
"I will always love you."
In order to hear the whisper
you must slow
it all
down. 
You must look closer
and see
what at first your
eyes
and ears
and mind
and heart
missed. 
You must slow down
and open to the possibility.
The possibility that the relationship continues?
It does.
The relationship continues...

If you’d like to explore this further, or any other facet of your grief journey, I work with people one-on-one.  If you’re in the Rockford, IL area, we can do that in person.  If you’re out of the local area, we can Skype, FaceTime  Zoom or Facebook Chat.  If you'd like to work with me, please email me at tomzuba@aol.com and we can schedule a session and discuss cost.  To learn more:  Working with Tom.