Wednesday, May 31, 2006
I had the honor last night of presenting the Rory Zuba Spirit Award to an 8th grader attending West Middle School in Rockford, the school my son Rory attended. Jeff Kolkey, the education reporter for the Rockford Register Star wrote a wonderful article that appeared in today’s paper. To read the article click Rockford Register Star.
I want to share with you the words of Jacob Miller, West Middle School’s student council president who was given the honor of addressing his fellow classmates and their families during the ceremony.
I was deeply touched and surprised by his remarks:
“Then there was 7th grade. This is when we truly became teenagers. That year was the hardest, but most memorable in Middle School. We gained knowledge that our friend, Rory Zuba, was diagnosed with a brain tumor. Everyone wanted to help out in some way to prevent the worst from happening. We had a candlelight vigil, a pancake breakfast, sold Livestrong bracelets all for his well-being. The death of Rory hit us like a brick wall. Once we heard the terrible news no one wanted to believe it. The silence of that day was unforgettable. We all had our hopes set so high only to be crushed into a million little pieces. Rory taught us all a lesson to not care what other people think. The death of Rory had a huge impact on each and every one of us, which brought us all closer to each other. We all know he’s watching over us right now and laughing.”
I’ve noticed that children and teen-agers have an innate ability to mourn. They are not afraid to feel their feelings… and “go public.” They are not yet bound by the unspoken rules of adulthood that many adhere to ... “whatever you do – don’t mention the dead people.”
It was wonderful for me, to be reminded - by Jacob’s remarks - how deeply connected Rory was to his classmates. It was incredible for me to hear Rory’s name mentioned so often last night. It feels good to know how much his friends, their families and his teachers love him…still.
Thank you Jacob Miller.
Peace,
Tom
